So I'm single again. After about three years and ready to marry she decided to do the dirty with some other man, trust is thus shattered and we went our seperate ways. YES, she was stateside, it was long-distance and it was a shock the way it went down. But past is past. I've moved on in the last month and a half and now look to meet new women. However over here in Japan I don't know really where to begin, back home there were a few places and such to meet and form relationships, but not sure where it's at over here. The honch is totally NOT the place and I realize this, but if not there then where? Advice, comments, violent assertions, and other random forum tripe is welcome. However, this ain't 4chan, try to be helpful. 

What type of women are you looking for? American, Asian/Foreign, etc? I agree the honch is not the best place to find a relationship.

My guess, is to get out of Yokosuka as quick as you can. Get involved in meetup groups. Meetup.com has a lot of social events taking place throughout Japan. Find something your interested in, and maybe you might meet some people there. Its always best to find someone as a partner that is into the same things you are. So if you both find each other at one of those places, that might be a good start.

Good luck. Hopefully some more people can give you some advice. Sorry to hear about the crushed past relationship. Long distance sucks. Normally never works out anyway. There is always trust issues.

Posted By Adam Jones on 02-09-2011 12:34 AM
What type of women are you looking for? American, Asian/Foreign, etc? I agree the honch is not the best place to find a relationship.

My guess, is to get out of Yokosuka as quick as you can. Get involved in meetup groups. Meetup.com has a lot of social events taking place throughout Japan. Find something your interested in, and maybe you might meet some people there. Its always best to find someone as a partner that is into the same things you are. So if you both find each other at one of those places, that might be a good start.

Good luck. Hopefully some more people can give you some advice. Sorry to hear about the crushed past relationship. Long distance sucks. Normally never works out anyway. There is always trust issues.

I guess I would lean to meeting Japanese, if only to meet and experience a new culture and improve my language skills but I am not particular with regards to ethnicity and such. While I have seen the many different opinions regarding "American v. Japanese" women it isn't a major factor. That said I would like to meet Japanese in general and try to form friendships with people not attached to the base and broaden my experiences.

I would suggest the International Parties that are thrown all the time by different promoters/organizers. I'm assuming that you're American which would get your "foot in the door" with most women there since they are looking to meet foreigners. Although I know others on here would disagree, there are some nice clubs/bars in Roppongi that cater to a clientele other than teeny-boppers and hip-hoppers. Most of the people that I have met in those places are business people letting off steam, relaxing after working in Tokyo with no attachment/interest in base.

just wondering. Back many years ago, when I was stationed in Yokosuka, they had many fine, intelligent Japanese women working on the base. I know, I and many of my Navy friends married some of them. Is this no longer the case?

I've noticed a lot of Japanese women will go to the Gas Panic in Kawasaki to meet western men (gaijin). Mind you, you are still meeting a girl in a club, but it's definitely better than the Honch.

There are also meet ups that are scheduled for Japanese women to meet western men; it's usually free for the guys, but the women pay a small fee for the service (kinda backwards to the way things happen in the states, lol)

Try online: pen pal sites (free), craigslist, etc. There are good girls & bad girls on these sites; it's pretty easy to tell which is which. There are many who genuinely want a relationship (friendship, dating, marriage). They are usually pretty honest about what they seek.

I met the girl of my dreams this way, from Thailand. We've known each other 6 years now, and our 3rd anniversary is next week.

What? this isn't 4chan? That's just Something Awful! =)

Good luck on your hunt for love, I don't have any advice. The only thing I could think of is try the modeling thing if you have spare time. You're bound to meet some pretty Russian girl on an audition or job! lol

Or how about an MMO? You can find some girl on WoW, EQ, or the new Rift coming out, hahaha =)

After I replied, I realized that I also should have mentioned online. There are dozens of free, legit dating sites online. Not everyone goes to bars or clubs, but who doesn't have an internet capable phone?

@Fireballfish - are you SURE that was a Gas Panic in Kawasaki? I have never heard of a Gas Panic there, nor is that location listed on the GP site.

@lewisly - yes, there are still some very fine JN's working on base. However, I'm sure they get more than enough attention from the thousands of single (and married and lesbian/bi (which there seem to be alot of)) sailors on base. Why would you even want to be involved with "chasing" that woman when you could have a nice sweet, pure Japanese woman who is not "Americanized" by exposure to the culture on base and dealing with Americans on a daily basis?

I can't find the Kawasaki Gas Panic anywhere online... Not even the official site. Maybe the Kawasaki branch closed? I know a few girls here in Yokosuka that would go there to meet American guys, and that was maybe less than a year ago. I've actually seen the Gas Panic in Kawasaki when I went to the fertility festival... it was near an Autobacs.

Yeah I second the staying away from Japanese women who work on the base. Back in the day, they were as @lewisly mentioned. But now there is an even larger group of guys trying to hook up with them than ever before. A lot of them have become big headed and have learned a sense of entitlement from working on the base and getting all the attention. Plus the spectre of a potential sexual harassment claim if they dont like you as much as you think they do is always looming over the whole thing.

If you are brand new to Japan or a high level officer, it might work out for a while to mess around on base as an easy way to get acclimated. But other than that I would recommend getting off the base. Go to some concerts or a sporting event, women EVERYwhere who have no idea what the base even is :-)

Well, am not sure how serious are you or what kind of relationship you actually looking for since you tag this as getting back in the game, I can only assume fun stuff and nothing serious, but at the same time am sure lots of single American women are reading this so few private email might actual help out on JapanBases from any lady that is willing to try you out.

Posted By Phyl on 02-10-2011 12:47 AM
Well, am not sure how serious are you or what kind of relationship you actually looking for since you tag this as getting back in the game, I can only assume fun stuff and nothing serious, but at the same time am sure lots of single American women are reading this so few private email might actual help out on JapanBases from any lady that is willing to try you out.

An astute observation. I was in fiancee' level with the previous relationship, ring on Christmas and everything. Guess distance proved too much for her. Though by no means do I wish to turn this into another mud-slinging thread about cheating. That said I'm not out for anything serious right off that bat, I think it better to be friends first and let something develop out of common interests and genuine friendship. Though I'm sure some truly fall in love at first sight I am a bit skeptical of the notion. So as far as further advice goes, I'm looking to make friends first, whether with Japanese or whoever, then see where things go from there. The pressure to always 'be with' someone I think is pretty ridiculous, but I can see why when you truck on home from watch late on Sat and see a lot of happy couples. Thanks for the responses so far. I've googled a few "dating" sites and most don't look legit with regards to trying to find someone locally. Anyone know which ones are legit?

I would say it all depends on the quality of women you're trying to meet as well. Casual places like restaurants, libraries, grocery stores & though I do NOT condone church as a way to meet women, I've seen faith bring couples together. I'd stay away from bars or clubs since they tend to attract the 'girls who wanna have fun' (unless that's your interest). But honestly, I think that the 'place' is irrelevant actually. You can meet women anywhere as long as you have the courage to politely approach/introduce yourself. Opportunities pass when you don't speak since females typically won't initiate. Maybe pay her a (respectful) compliment. Guys may not realize rejection is not always the case. If she's interested, you'll know. Enjoy your freedom! She'll come along!