A friend of mine told me this story that happened...

So husband and wife have a few kids, and the wife decided to go out and hang out with her friends for the night.  She told her husband she would be going to Tokyo on Friday night.  She said she would be home in the morning.

So Saturday morning came around, and he started to worry.

He tried calling, but no answer.

He got nervous, and started calling around to see if anyone knew, or if the hospital's knew anything.  No answers..

So the whole day goes by, and its approaching 6pm on Saturday night, and she walks into the house.  Acts like nothings wrong. 

By that time he was really really worried about her.  He sees her walk in, and nervously asks, "where have you been, I have been trying to get in touch with you, I was nervous.........blah blah blah..

Her answer back.... "I was in good hands..."

If you know what that means, your dead on..  She was with another man....

What would be your reaction next being a loving husband who sits home with the kids all night, and day waiting for mom to come home, and you hear those words come out of her mouth?

My husband would of been a nervous wreck if I didn't come home when I said I would (granted that I would stay out until next morning????), and if I walked in and said that... Divorce papers.

And he knows I'd do the same in that situation.

WTF!?

Divorce papers.

I agree

That is just really sad. Sad for the hubby, sad for the kids. Those poor kids waiting for their mom to come home...that's a terrible thing for her to do.

Well both of us are way past the party stage...but if something like that did happen, well there would be one less person in this house.

my husband and I have this policy if you dont want me to do it to you then dont do it to me... my best bet is if i did that and i said those things that I was in good hands - my suitcases would have been by the door when i get home...

There's always two sides to a story. Maybe we don't have the complete story. What if he has cheated on her time and time again before this incident and this was just "pay back?" Nonetheless, it looks like a loveless marriage (or at least a really screwed up one) and it would take a lot of work to ever make this marriage work.

Relationships are about trust, and if you don't have that in your relationship, you shouldn't be married.

I would buy tickets for a few woman in my family to come here and handle that, then send her on her way...

I agree with there being 2 sides to every story.

Chances are, if that happened, she was thinking divorce anyway.

And there is over this way....

oh was this about you? or you can relate to this? (I'm not tryin to be funny this time) Just thought I put that out there lol.

I'm sure there are two sides to the story, but if the husband was at home worrying because his wife wasn't home on time and was unreachable and her response was she was out cheating, I say file for divorce.

Sh*t like this is why I stay single. This is one of those situations where it's more or less in-your-face. She's pretty much telling him that she wants her life back. If I were him, I'd take the kids and let her go on her way. I wouldn't be nice about it, either. I'd make her sign away all her rights to the kids and make them fully mine. That's just the Keith answer, though.

Yep, I get custody and she pays ME support. Once women start messing around with other dudes like that, their judgement always seems to go right out the window and you cant even trust them to take care of their kids or not expose you to other dangerous behaviors/situations that will get you in trouble at your job or get you sick or dead.

By the way, the ease in which she did this, its probably somebody dude knows or knows of. Most women arent stupid enough these days to go home with some random dude who could be a killer or have a disease. Plus if it was that kind of thing she would have been home first thing in the morning after the guy kicked her out of his place, random women get kicked out of the pad right after they make breakfast. There is a level of "comfyness" with the person she did it with that she just stayed together most of the next day too.

Regardless of who it is, cant trust her judgement when it comes to the kids or to my health/job so she gotta go. To me, its not really what she DID, its the lack of sound judgement that it lets come into view. So hey, if the new guy wants her so bad he can help contribute to her financial support to ME to "show his love".

Can't get divorced while in the military overseas without going through a stateside process (got that t-shirt). Early return of dependents and get counseling from NLSO; they can advise and assist but they can't act. Work out all financial and custody issues with them, document same and use as the basis for a final divorce agreement/decrea. Unless witnessed, adultery cannot be proven. Too many things we don't know here. His first mistake was to ask the usual questions. My friend's non-adulterous wife stayed out all night without letting him know first. When she got home he asked not one question. All he said was, "I hope you had fun because that's the last time THAT'S gonna happen." She's fine now.

Sure there are three sides sides to every story, but going by what's written here, she left her kids without any word. It wouldn't be AS bad if it was just the hubby...actually I can see there being more explanation on her side. And the situation would be way more simple.
But the fact that there are kids involved makes her actions unacceptable. If she wasn't happy, she should have just told him and then they could go from there--assuming they're mature enough to have that conversation without the need to 'retaliate' against the other person..

Thankfully they are in Japan...hard to get ahold of a gun (possible, but hard)

I agree with Wilson.